Hello friends! It’s been WAY TOO LONG! It really has been.
Micheala and I haven’t been near as disciplined as we should be about blogging and I know she has addressed this, so we won’t dwell on it. I am hoping though, that this blog changes that and we back here a couple of times a week. Whether it’s a picture, a quote, a little ditty or a full-out blogpost, we’re going to try to get back here regularly! On that note, let the blog post proceed!
Lately, I have been challenged with how attitude determines outcome. Specifically, how my attitude determines the outcome!
I don’t know about you, but I take my work personally. I truly love what I do and want to do it well, but often I fall short. Disappointment and failure are a part of the job, but it’s a difficult pill to swallow sometimes. I also listen to those around me and sometimes that effects how I see things. So you mix up my feelings/opinions and the opinions/thoughts of others…and well, from time to time, I struggle to see the sun for its shine.
In a personal challenge to start seeing the cup as a half full and filling, to count my abundant blessings and to consciously choose to be happy and positive about the details of my day, I set some personal goals:
- Read something that is positive every day. Currently I am reading “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin. I stumbled across it on Oyster and feel like its discovery was serendipitous. Her perspective on how happiness is something that is a choice and really should be an active goal has been enlightening.
- Listen to something educational and/or uplifting every day. I happen to love Audible books, so instead of listening to radio while I work, I listen to audio books. Right I am listening to “Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Life of Well-Being, Wisdom and Wonder” by Arianna Huffington. I like learning and this book is helping me redefine success and purpose. Together with my family, we’re listening to “Born to Run: A Hidden Tribe, Superathletes, and the Greatest Race the World has Never Seen” by Christopher McDougall. The later makes for great car rides and wonderful conversation.
- Spend some quality, tech-free time with my family. Family is something that is easily taken for granted, but shouldn’t be. I am who I am and fortunate enough to live my dream, because my family has been supportive and along for the journey. If I don’t have them, I really don’t have anything. Making time for my family shouldn’t compete with my iPhone or computer…but it does. Choosing to be present and focused on my family has been quite a challenge, but it’s rewards are sweet. Taking time out to really listen to my son tell me how daycare was or to hear about my husband’s latest meeting or to build a fort in the living room or have random dance parties in the kitchen is time well spent and well invested. It’s these blessings that fill my heart and drive me to work hard.
- Have some quiet time every day. Schedule it if you need too. Whether you meditate or pray or simply enjoy the sunrise over a cup of coffee, taking time to yourself is crucial. For me, it helps me center myself and prepare for the day of tasks ahead of me.
- Exercise and/or go for a run every day. There was a time, not all that long ago, that I didn’t understand people who worked out or ran. I would hear how it’s good for you, what a great stress reliever it was, etc. It wasn’t until I discovered it for myself, did I understand its true value. I try to make time for some kind of physical activity every day, no matter where I am at. I feel better. I am more productive and focused and honestly, I am happier. It’s awesome.
- Decide to be happy and positive. Each day, it’s up to me to decide what kind of day I am going to have. I realize I can’t control every detail of my day, but I can decide my attitude and my perception of things. I haven’t honed this one perfectly, but that’s why this is a goal. I have something to work towards! I always tell Chaz to “have the best day” when I drop him off at daycare. He once asked me why I don’t say “have a good day” and I said, “why have a good day when you can have the best day?!” He agreed. Then I got to thinking, I really need to practice what I preach. It is up to me to help determine the tone of my day. It won’t always be perfect, easy or fun, but it’s another day I get to do what I love and I need to celebrate the good things that happen each day.
I am only a few weeks into this, but I can tell you I think it is helping! I find myself smiling and appreciating moments each day that I think I might have missed before this. Again, I acknowledge that I won’t always be happy and there will be bad days with bad news, but it’s my attitude that impacts my perception. Within each day there will be moments of happiness and moments that will serve as stepping stones to help you see the sun for its shine!
Today I encourage you to choose happy. Make it a goal and actively seek it!
Have the best day!